between friendship and love

Subject: between friendship and love 4/3/2009, 3:39 am

Where do you draw the line between friendship and love?

Everyday just as we stick our foot outside the doorway, we immediately find ourselves coming in contact with people. Eccentricities. Different kinds. Bad ones and good ones. If by any chance fate steps in, one of those will inch his or her way to get closer to us. Surprisingly, as if by divine intervention, we permit that person to penetrate into our lives. A bit too late though, when we come to realize that our everydays will never be the same ever again. Sometimes in a good way, sometimes in an intensely agonizing way. How? Here’s how…

Borrowing a line from a song, “Got to believe in magic, tell me how two people find each other in a world that’s full of strangers.” Yah, this may sound lame but it makes a helluva good point. We meet people in the strangest of ways. You for instance, could crash into him while you’re running late for work on a crowded downtown street, carrying a Starbucks mocha latte or you could meet him at the Bart station while you’re desperately trying to break free your newly bought scarf from a strange man’s ugly dog’s tartared fangs. And this person is the one who will mean a lot to you... you may not know it by then… but he is the very one. Peculiar. Bizarre. Extra ordinary. Amazing. Headache in the making.

When that person manages to read through your ways, get along with you… you start to fancy him. You start to want to talk to him, see his smile. You get a longing to study him. Or a longing for him to study you. Danger zone.

You then allow him to be part of your weekly routine then daily routine then hourly routine… and he’s stuck in your mind forever. You may not realize it… and you may continually mask your I’m-in-deep-sh*t-coz-I’m-so-inlove-with-him as a he’s-just-a-very-very-good-and-close-friend-of-mine line. Yah right, who are you kidding? You think incessant denial can keep you from hearing the deafening drum roll in your heart? Think again. You may play deaf… but others will have a good hearing sense about it. It will show, no matter how hard you try to unproject it. Good if that person feels the same way but if not? Well, good luck picking up the pieces of your wretched-but-still-breaking-heart.

See, the problem with people is denial. The moment you realize your mistake, he has already gone on a weekend trip with his sweetie. Darn, all the time you were denying your feelings for him, he spent looking for someone who won’t. And you wonder… “Have I been denying it for that long? Or is it just that he found someone else so fast?” Either way… you just lost. So go on and rip your pillow until all the cotton fall off.

But are you about to give up just yet? Of course not. You’d think that since you’ve been friends for quite a “long” while, you can claim a right to demand some alone time with him— Regardless of the stripper/bitch/or whatever you choose to call his official girlfriend. Again, you deny that you are not and will never be his priority. A sad reality.

So where exactly do you draw this line? Where exactly do you know when you need to back off? Well, more often than not, you wouldn’t know. That’s precisely why you become so irritatingly clingy and so overly attached. Objections? Shut up.

The best way perhaps is to assess yourself. Find out why you’re feeling what you’re feeling. It will help too if you stop owning the person. He was never yours to begin with. You might have shared the same wants, shared the same sentiments for a time but that’s about it. That does not mean you can claim him and that does not, in any way, give you any right to meddle with his life… his work, his loved ones, his all. Back off… that’s the word. If you refuse to do it then you’re just immersing yourself in a way deeper sh*t. You’ll drown yourself in misery, gasping desperately for a chance to breathe again.

Great advice: Grab yourself a dictionary and look up the meaning of friendship. Know your limits and don’t whine about it because frankly, you don’t have a right to do so. If you want your friendship to be respected and kept… start respecting the commitment he has with his future wife— who happens to be not you.

Life does not end however. You still have the chance for a love to call your own. Don’t waste it by trying to win back something that you have never won in the first place. What a Face

Subject: Re: between friendship and love 4/3/2009, 10:31 am

wah..cnfrm lmbt tertangkap nie nak translate p BM lg..hihi..phm jga lh tp x brapa phm.. pale

yg pnting berkawan lbh tahan lama hubungannya dr bercinta..

Subject: Re: between friendship and love 28/4/2009, 4:07 pm

ya caya tu bekawan la lama

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